Wednesday, 26 February 2014

Rant No. 26: Chit-chat.

I will never take chit-chat for granted again.

Walking into a local shop and having a bit of a chat as I buy something. Walking into a pub and getting a bit of friendly banter. Coming into work, and being asked how I am, or how my weekend was.

I thought this was just what people did. But not all people. Not Germans.

I used to work with a girl who whenever I tried to strike up a conversation at the coffee machine, by asking her how she was, would reply “Fine”, not asking me in return, or adding anything in the way of input to the conversation. In the end, I gave up.

I used to sit opposite another girl who rarely ever even said hello or goodbye in the morning or evening. To me, this was just plain rude.

And then there was the guy who always says hello and goodbye, but nothing else.

Where is the banter? Why don’t they want to chat?

I decided that Germans must only like to have a conversation for a specific purpose. Not just because. I don’t know if this is true, but it’s the conclusion I’ve come to.

I’ve also realised that I really like to talk shit. I don’t think every conversation has to achieve something; sometimes it’s just good to chat, and have a laugh, about nothing in particular. I crave pointless banter, and it’s another thing I stock up on when I go back to the UK.


  1. Agreed again, even with one or two people I'm supposed to be 'friends' with (I only know about 2 Germans besides my husband), I struggle to get a reply from them when I'm just trying to chit chat, they look at me like: "What's the point of this?" I feel like I rather not bother. With people I meet in passing is even worse, then, I go to the UK and I get banter from pretty much EVERYONE, at the tills, in a taxi, at the pub, at the bus stop, it feels amazing that I can interact with humans again!

    1. Yeah, it becomes like hard work... and then you think why am I making all the effort!

  2. You forgot to mention that guy who when asked "so how was you weekend" responded deadpan with "err... excuse me but i think that is a really personal question". Was that you or Ana? Can't remember. But i still remember hearing it!